I’d like to start this post off by stating that I know virtually nothing about music therapy and how music can aid mental health and self-care. The ideas in this post are going to draw from my personal experiences and ideas.
Music is such a powerful medium and there’s no doubt that it has the power to influence an individual’s emotional state. I, therefore believe that it can be used as a tool for self-care.
I’ve noticed that in the past when I’ve read about self-care, there is always a great emphasis on being happy, calm and peaceful (understandably). To make this post a little different I’m going to look at the other side. When people try and force themselves to feel happy they completely ignore the opposite side of the spectrum of emotions. which cant be healthy.
Sadness is felt for a reason. It shouldn’t be ignored. In my experience, I’ve found its best to not ignore sadness but to ride it out, let it do its own thing for a little while. Ignoring it is worse for your mental health in the long run. So let yourself feel sadness every now and again, give yourself an hour or two, put on some sad songs then have a nap or something. When you wake up things will be in perspective. sometimes it has to get worse before it can get better. Well at least in my experience, this is true.
With the state of popular music at the moment, emotional songs have become somewhat of a rarity. This might be because of a social pressure and expectations to be happy all the time, but I don’t know. So I’ve outlined a list of my ten favourite sad songs. Songs I listen to when I’m down, so maybe you can try them too. I’ve also included a quote from each and links to where you can listen to them.
Please, let me know what you think.
– The Bottle
Wish You Were Here. – Neck Deep.
Life is short, for everyone. Appreciate those close to you.
Quote: “They say you’re in a better place, but a better place is right here with me”
Somebody Else. – The 1975.
A lot of complex emotions.
Quote: “I’m looking through you while you’re looking through your phone and then leaving with somebody else.”
102. – Matt Healy.
Also great to play on guitar.
Roots and Branches. – This Wild Life.
One for loneliness.
Quote: “Am I meant to be alone?”
Misery. – Creeper.
About an Ex.
Quote: “Hold my had for a little while, Misery never goes out of style.”
Coffee. – James Veck-Gilodi.
A song about a pessimistic life but trying to turn it around, again and again.
James Veck-Gilodi was one of the best gigs I’ve ever been to.
Quote: “It’s a strange old life that we live,
eating badly and staying up late.
and I’ve built up this habit of expecting the worst and
hoping good things will come my way.”
Anemophobia. + Anemophobia Part 2. – Deaf Havana.
In an interview with Kerrang, James (Lead singer) said that he recorded this song straight after he had a panic attack, he was at one of the lowest points in his life and thought he was going to die. The song had never be sung out loud before. He recorded it then because he thought he was going to die, he thought it would be the last song he would record. He went on to say you can hear the desperation in his voice on the track. I agree, you really can.
Also my favourite ever song.
Quote: “I’m not a pessimist, but sometimes hope is missed.”
The song also has a part two which was released last year which outlines what’s changed since the first one.
Another Sad Song. – Lower Than Atlantis.
A song about depression.
Quote: “I used to be so happy
Now here’s another sad song by a sad boy
Playing the saddest chords he knows.”
Tears and Rain. – James Blunt.
Love him or hate him, this song makes you feel.
Quote: “I guess it’s time I run far, far away.
Find comfort in pain.”
Miserable at Best – Mayday Parade.
I don’t even have anything to say about this one, it speaks for itself.
Quote: “I’ll bet he gets the nerve to walk the floor
And ask my girl to dance.
And she’ll say yes.”
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