Family – Kindred​ “Spirits”

When it comes to family I usually have a lot to say and I have to admit it’s not always pleasant. In my immediate family, I have my parents, two brothers and two sisters. My Father was one of 4 and my Mother the youngest of 10 (Catholics, they breed like rabbits aha). From these Aunts and Uncles, I have over 40 cousins. So, as you can imagine the family gatherings are few and far between but always end up being rich in laughter, Love and definitely alcohol. As you can imagine from having such a large family I have many crazy and funny stories. These will definitely feature in future blogs for sure so don’t worry. However, the main reason I decided to do my first official solo blog post on my family was because they have been my rock through every bad patch I’ve ever had in my life. Yes, we bicker, fight and argue but no matter what has happened they have always had my back. My brothers and I are as thick as thieves, basically the three musketeers aha. Some of the things said around the kitchen table in my house would definitely sound like bullying to a stranger, and unfortunately, even though I am the eldest sibling, I am definitely the butt of most jokes. It sometimes feels like its relentless banter aimed in my direction. I admit, when I was younger I struggled a bit with this, but as I’ve grown up and matured (slightly) this has really shaped the person I am today and definitely for the better.

The years of teasing has helped me develop the ability to always take a joke with a smile, and not to take any offence, as well as being able to handle and deal with bullying.

When I was younger I was bullied for a long time about my height and I never dealt with this very well. I didn’t have my growth spirt until I turned 18.

I can still picture the day it all changed as if it was yesterday. I was 16 and had been miserable for months about having to go to school. More so than a normal teen would be. My brothers had noticed this and so I finally told them what was going on. Instantly you could see the brotherly bond and loyalty kick in. They were ready to do whatever it took to help me out. When I say that I don’t mean fight or retaliate (I was too teeny tiny to fight). They offered me the ability to talk to someone about it, said I could spend lunch and break with them and their friends if I was having a bad day. The saw what I needed and gave me exactly that. They said that no matter what is said between us as a family, no one else should dare to say the same/similar things.

This taught me three valuable lessons;

1: No matter what happens I was incredibly lucky to have been given two amazing brothers and best friends.

2: Family is definitely one of the most important things in life.

3: No one should ever be exposed to bullying, no matter how quirky or weird they are. Just because they might be different doesn’t mean the deserve it.

Please let me know what you think of my first ever solo post and also share some of your own experiences with family in the comments below, I’d love to hear some of your stories.

This post was brought to you Under the Influence of a small amount of beer and a large amount of stress.

-JD

Thanks for reading, we here at Under an Influence hoped you enjoyed this post, if you missed our last post, which was about our three writers’ new years resolutions you can read it here – https://underaninfluence.blog/2018/01/31/cheers-to-this-some-fashionably-late-new-years-resolutions/ . Thanks again and have a great day!

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